Week Five
Video.
A video giving you an idea of what to expect for this week. This will be a quick snap shot to help get you in the right mindset and expected goals to set for yourself.
Worksheet.
This is your “to-do” list for the week. It will outline what this week will entail, what readings you have for this week, your journal entries, as well as your practical exercise.
You can either download and print, or simply save it to your device for quick access through out the week. Everything is also listed further down on this page.
Readings:
There are no specific readings for this week but you can check out my blog if you’d like(Blog post)
Or simply read something that brings you joy!
Journal Prompts:
“Brain Dump”
This is how you will start every week. It’s exactly what it sounds like, you sit down and write whatever comes into your mind. Don’t overthink it!! It can be as simple as a grocery list, or as complex as an argument you had recently. This helps clear your mind of all distractions and keep you focused on the task at hand. (If your called to share anything please tag me @theunchartedadventure).
Write out how your interactions went from your exercise last week. Be specific
From your assignment last week detail out how your conversations went with your support system. Did it go well? Did it go poorly? Why do you think it went that way? If the conversation went poorly, could you have approached it differently with a different outcome. Do NOT get hung up on the conversations that went poorly, use them as a learning opportunity for growth and development and keep moving forward.
For each boundary you listed previously that you want to set, write a script for how you want that to look.
It’s getting serious! This is probably one of the most important journal topics you will be doing during this course. If you have more than 5 boundaries that you want to set skip the next two journal prompts, and focus on writing out scripts. Keep in mind that everyone will respond to your boundaries differently and that’s perfectly okay. But, your boundaries need to remain unchanged, stay firm but gentle while setting them.
Take a look back at your scripts you wrote out. Did you apologize?
If you answered yes, why did you feel the need to apologize? Then rewrite the script without the apology!! Many people feel the need to apologize when they hurt someone else feelings with their opinion or their boundaries. (This is not saying that you never need to apologize) I’m simply saying that you are not in charge of other peoples emotions, or reactions. You do not need to apologize to anyone if you are being tactful and doing something to protect yourself and your emotions. How someone else responds to you setting a boundary is not for you to change, or to apologize for. You can’t control their feelings, but you can control how you react to them.
What are your tips and tricks for remaining calm while under stress?
What do you currently do while under stress to remain calm and the anger at bay? If you don’t have any, or your’s aren’t working use this time to come up with some new ideas to try.
Practical Exercise:
Last week’s exercise was a little more intense, having conversations with your support system and what you’re expectations where. This week will be a little less confrontational but still super important.
Take the conversations you wrote out for each boundary and record yourself having them. You can do this on your own, or enlist the help from a support system person.
Once you record them, watch them back. If you don’t like what you see, then make some adjustments as needed and re-record the conversations with those adjustments.